Stop me if you’ve heard this one before. A transgender individual walks into a bar and, because of “liberal socialists,” robs the innocence of a young girl and her protective mother.
If your Facebook is like my Facebook, maybe you’ve seen this photo pop up on your Newsfeed.
And this is a legitimate concern. I don’t want our kids falling victim to creepy perverted men either. As a Charlotte woman, Pam Burton, said “I’m not scared of transgenders. That’s not what I think the problem is. Sexual predators are not good people; they don’t do the right thing” (Domonoske, 2016). And I have to agree! See, the bathroom bill isn’t about transgender people it’s about the possibility of our children getting hurt. So let’s, for arguments sake, pretend as though this bathroom bill has nothing to do with transphobes shaking in their boots, the same way racists shook when they painted “Whites Only” on bathroom doors. Let’s just pretend that our concern for our children is the driving force in such measures.
If this was really about fear for our children’s safety, then why do only 2 of every 100 rapists serve time (RAINN)?
If this was really about fear for our children’s safety, then why are 1 in 5 women victims of rape by men? Why do we, as a society, allow this to happen through spreading rape myths, objectifing women at every turn, and telling our men that aggression and violence against women is normal (Hildebrand et al., 2015, p. 1059-60)?
If this was really about fear for our children’s safety, then we wouldn’t have a national epidemic in our college system that forces our daughters, on their own for the first time, to be raped and raped and raped again (Gray, 2014, p. 20-7)
See, here’s the thing. If we, as a nation – if we, as North Carolinians, truly care about keeping our children safe from potential dangers, we had better start by safeguarding them against actual ones.
So, no, Pam Burton. No, John Buchanan. No, Ben’s Facebook Friend and the 79,000 people like you: you’re not afraid of our nation’s kids being victimized. You’re not scared of the big man dressed as a woman robbing your child’s innocence. Why? Because it’s already been robbed. It continues to be. And instead of doing anything about the real problem, you’re busy marginalizing an entire group of human beings who, by the way, just want to pee. Here’s the truth: You are transphobic. You are ignorant. You are the problem. And you don’t even have the decency to admit to it.
Domonoske, C. (2016). North Carolina Passes Law Blocking Measures To Protect LGBT People. Retrieved from http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2016/03/24/471700323/north-carolina-passes-law-blocking-measures-to-protect-lgbt-people
Gray, E. (2014). The college town of Missoula, Mont., saw at least 80 reported rapes over three years, earning it the name America’s Rape Capital. But the nickname has it wrong. Missoula isn’t special; it is fairly average. The truth is, for young women, America’s campuses are dangerous places (Cover story). Time, 183(20), 20-27.
Hildebrand, Meagen M., and Cynthia J. Najdowski. “The Potential Impact Of Rape Culture On Juror Decision Making: Implications For Wrongful Acquittals In Sexual Assault Trials.” Albany Law Review 78.3 (2015): 1059-1086. Academic Search Complete. Web. 15 Apr. 2016.
RAINN. (2012). Reporting Rates. Retrieved from https://rainn.org/get-information/statistics/reporting-rates